Christian Living
John Fernandes
The Common and Weak Arguments of Pro-Choice ...

Roe V Wade was overturned yesterday and my social media feeds have been permeated with Pro-Choicers spewing arguments that are complete nonsense, whether I was a pro-lifer based in Christianity (or any religion) or a pro-lifer based in atheism. I will present those arguments and provide logical and scientific reasons why they are invalid. You may say “there is no absolute truth, truth is subjective.” If you do, you just contradicted yourself already and made a poor argument. To say definitely that no absolute truth exists, you are defining subjective truth as absolute truth…

The Common and Weak Arguments of Pro-Choice Unraveled
Mental Health, Life Experience
John Fernandes
Today, I Embraced My Inner Child

There is a trend in psychology going around about understanding and healing your inner child. I have never understood it until today. I think a reason seasonal depression hits me, is it brings back feelings and memories that were uncomfortable or negative for younger me. I sat on social media and observed the “memories” that it had for me for today. That only exacerbated my mood. Lost friends, past failures, broken relationships, etc. Nothing changes if nothing changes, so I took action.

Today, I chose to listen to my inner child. I chose to serve my inner child. I chose to embrace my inner child.

Today, I Embraced My Inner Child
Ministry
John Fernandes
Youth Deserve the Same Opportunity To Worship ...

Picture this. It is Sunday morning. You are attending your Sunday morning church service, yearning to experience God, working to deepen your knowledge of God, and aiming to deepen your relationship with God. You are in the middle of the musical worship portion of the service when people slam through the sanctuary doors with a ruckus. But it doesn’t stop there. They loudly speak to people throughout the congregation. Would you be distracted? I would be. Would it interrupt your worship? It would for me.

Youth Deserve the Same Opportunity To Worship As Adults
Mental Health
John Fernandes
Stages of Change for Leaving A Sinful Lifestyle

The Stages of Change Model is a key tool in addiction counseling and recovery. We can see the Stages of Change model active in more than just recovery from substances, but instead in any type of change we are endeavoring to make. This model even describes when the Holy Spirit starts convicting us for things in our life that are not of God.

Stages of Change for Leaving A Sinful Lifestyle
Mental Health
John Fernandes
Can Christians Say Addiction Is A Disease?

Recently, I have encountered many Christians who say that addiction is not a disease it is purely a matter of choice and self-control. As somebody in recovery and finishing up his Masters in Addiction Counseling, I firmly say that is bologna, and can be a very dangerous and harmful thing to say.

Can Christians Say Addiction Is A Disease?

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5 Tips for Starting A New Ministry Assignment

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A week ago from today, my wife and I loaded up a moving truck with the pastor and a laymen from Payette Church of the Nazarene and ventured on the road. For the past few months, my wife and I felt the call that it was time for me to get back into ministry. During my 3 years off of ministry, I stayed active in volunteering place, but did not take on a leadership position. I was in a place in my life where I needed healing and guidance from God. One day, I prayed a dangerous prayer “God, use me however, whenever, and wherever.” Little did I know that would take Sabrina and I from the city of Phoenix, Arizona to a small town in Payette, Idaho within 2 weeks from our final and in-person interview. Everything seemed to fall into place from where I would complete my practicum for my Master in Addiction Counseling to where we would be living temporarily. Sabrina and I were nervous, but excited for such a big and quick move. Our emotions were all over the place, but we grew closer together because of it. As we were driving up and nearing the church, I started counting my blessings and couldn't help but cry out of joy. God has blessed me way more than I deserve. I have the woman of my dreams and now the job God has placed in my heart. Three years ago, I was in such a broken and dark place. I had such low value for my life and had no idea how God could use somebody like me because of the things I had done and what had happened to me. I praise God for his redemption and healing. I praise God for turning my scars into a testimony. I worship Him for who He is. Thank you, Lord for this new chapter in my life. A chapter of change, a chapter of joy, a chapter of hope. After being a full-time Associate/Youth Pastor for a week, there are 5 major things that I have learned that I would like to share with you if you are starting a new ministry assignment

1. Excessively Use Their Name

      You will be learning a lot of names and seeing a lot of faces. The fact of the matter is that you just cannot remember them all. There will be some that stick out for various reasons, but for the most part, you have to be intentional about learning people’s names. Names are important to people because it is part of their identity. People feel special when you remember them by name. A trick of mine I use is to excessively use their name until I am comfortable and confident with the fact that I honestly know their name. After they introduce themselves, use their name in every other sentence that you speak with them. This helps your brain, not only remember their name, but remember facts about them as you having the conversation. When you get to a place where you can be alone, either write down or reflect that person’s name and what you have learned about them.

2. Set a Schedule

       I have always been one that is big on setting a schedule. Schedule when you will be at the office. Schedule when you will meet with somebody. Schedule your lunch break, your you time, your down time, your study time, etc. Be intentionally. This also helps set boundaries so people, office tasks, events, etc don’t monopolize your time. Your schedule should be well-balanced and managed.

3. Be Flexible

       I left the culture I grew up in to acclimate to a new culture that I am not too familiar with. I grew up in Phoenix with city life and having everything I need in a 10 minute drive. It would have been immature of me to come into this new ministry position trying to make it like it would be in Phoenix. I have asked a lot of questions about the culture of the church and of the youth ministry. I am flexible and learning. I am not trying to come in and make a replica of the community of Phoenix. Ministry has to be authentic to the culture and the people you are serving. Be flexible to change the way you approach ministry.

4. Be Yourself

       For years, I interviewed for positions and I never felt like I was my authentic self. I thought I had to present a person of perfection to become a pastor. Right off the bat in the interview process for this church, I was transparent about my history with mental health and addiction. It was a breath of relief to be able to be myself. Not only that, I can be quirky, nerdy, dorky, and geeky (my love of Power Rangers) and be accepted and embraced for who I am.

5. Enjoy

       God put this position on my heart as my calling and dream job. I worked hard to get here. I worked for a bible degree in college. I worked to heal so that I don’t bleed over people in ministry. I grew up and matured in my 3 year break from ministry. I love where I am at and I feel as though this is exactly where God has called me. Starting this new position, I feel like I’m playing catch up by learning about the church, the people, the scheduled meetings, scheduled events, and more, but at the same time I am building relationships with the congregants. I worked hard to be here and I will work hard as long as God has assigned me here, but that does not mean I don’t absolutely enjoy and love every second of it.